Our little Buddy goes to bed like a champ. As if the crib has been calling his name all night. He is out like a light within five minutes. We take him upstairs, whisper our good night prayers, say I love yous, and ni-ni. That's it. Done.
Our little Bee. Not so much. She has never really gone to sleep without help. She had a pacifier until 19 months (she's now four) and then we helped her by staying with her, using music, a blankie. We've tried it all. She has never wanted to go to sleep alone. "But I'm all alonely." That's her line.
But it's gotten worse. We follow the same routine. Hubs reads to her after brushing teeth, they say good night prayers, cuddle for a minute, turn on some music (a new addition to the routine in an attempt to solve our current issues), and say good night. When she comes down, we prompt her back upstairs. Even when I try to lay with her, her body will not stop moving. I end up getting frustrated because she won't lay still and will not stop talking. She doesn't want to fall asleep.
She takes HOURS to fall asleep. HOURS. It is exhausting. The prompting and the whining and the crying. We've tried adjusting the time both earlier and later, with no improvement. Hubs is ready to say forget it and let her stay up with us (I usually go to bed at 10:00) because we are so tired of fighting with her.
I can't really say I expect any advice, but I'd take it if anyone has ideas. We've gone the way of the sticker chart, they've lost their effectiveness. Hubs made good on a threat tonight to have her put some movies in a garbage bag (they're up in a closet, he told her she could get them back someday, but she thinks they're thrown away). Punishment and reward have both failed to change the behavior.
Does she need less sleep? She's still napping at daycare for the time being (until September, I think).
Should we just keep doing what we're doing?
I'm at the end of my rope here, I think. I don't want her to be sleep-deprived, and I hate it that every day ends negatively with her because she has worn down our patience yet again.
I guess I'm hoping it's just a phase (a four year phase, so far).